Have you ever wondered to yourself why your kids do certain things? Do you find yourself asking questions like “Why is parenting so hard?” or “Why won’t my kids listen?” or “Who made this mess?”on a regular basis? I know I did.
If you answered yes to any of those questions (or many others) then you need to read Parenting the QBQ Way! Did you know that our children are the product of our parenting? GASP I know! Hard to take, isn’t it?
Accountable parents grasp the truth that it is their job to bring their child successfully into adulthood. We live in a society of needing everything now, but we are also the biggest excuse makers and procrastinators out there. We want everything fixed yesterday, but don’t want to do anything to fix it. It is so much easier to place blame on someone or something else. This comic I saw on Facebook a couple weeks back explains it very well!
When I was growing up and did the above, I was the one that got in trouble for it not my teacher!
So back to the book. The concept behind the QBQ is about personal accountability and asking the question behind the question. I was first introduced to that book through my brother in law and husband. So when I had the opportunity to read the newest book, Parenting the QBQ Way, I jumped at the chance. I have a library of parenting books that I have bought trying to make myself a better mom! This book however was different, this books looks at things in a different way. It teaches us how to be an outstanding parent and raise great kids by using the power of personal accountability. It is a tool that enables parents to practice personal accountability by making better choices in the moment, asking better questions.
QBQs begin with the words “What ” or “How” – not “Why,” “When” or “Who” like I found myself using. When you begin to understand this you learn that the answers are in the question. QBQ parents look at themselves and try to figure out how they can improve and what they can do differently. They let their children fail and instead of making excuses or trying to cover for them they ask what they can do to allow their child to learn from their mistakes.
One part that struck a chord with me is that John shows you how voicing our parental frustrations openly in front of our kids has so many negative consequences. They tear children down, diminish our joy of parenting, and interfere with our desire to learn new skills. We get stuck in the “I am too tired” thought process.
This book is a must read for all parents. It is short and to the point, perfect for any busy mom.
The wonderful people from the QBQ were generous enough to give me 3 copies to giveaway to my readers.